I went through a search almost identical to what you’re looking for recently and ended up with this bad boy with the help of the board.
BMC Agonist Two
Just spent a week with it riding in Sedona and Tucson (rocky as hell) and it was everything I wanted it to be. It was everything I needed it to be. Couldn’t be happier with it.
Check out this thread - it was super helpful:
and this thread…
It was @grenhall who pointed me towards the Agonist – it was helpful that my LBS is a BMC dealer.